I wanna start this by talking to the ladies out there... The denial of this emotion alone is devastating to the body.
Note: There is a difference between anger and rage (although, both acceptable to experience)
If you (or anyone else) has ever said, “I never get angry” .. I say it’s in there and worth looking for/at.
It was an emotion I had never experienced in my life til a few years ago, when I was describing muscle /joint soreness to someone as “angry”. This muscle is angry, this pain is angry.. and the person I was talking to so wisely said, “ummmm you may want to look into it, you are using these words all too frequently” and bam 💥within 24 hours I was washed over with immense anger. I was nearly able to spit fire at people. I had never felt this before and it was not comfortable at all.
It needed to finally be seen. I’m certain I had been stuffing this down for years, probably decades. And all I had to do was allow it to rise up, move through/be seen, and then exit. I have not felt like that since.
No one needed to suffer in my wake. It was challenging to be in public and with others when I felt my head was going to spin from the emotional agony I was in.. but because I knew it wasn’t anything current, or anyone else’s fault I didn’t make anyone else pay for it.
Anger needs a place to express itself. Not out at anyone, not stuffed down or inward to yourself but in a healthy, observational way. It has a lot to teach when you give it space to breathe.
If you have never experienced it before, may I suggest you do, and perhaps with a trusted support or professional until you can navigate it on your own. If your “goal” is to be more well rounded, then this emotion must be part of the process.
So, feel this, read it a few times, give it room and time to play out. Extend yourself permission to make mistakes, celebrate the small things while taking these steps.. it’s a process. Enjoy the journey.
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